Good, good, congratulations. We’re glad it didn’t work for you because if it did you wouldn’t know what you know now. You’ve been granted a stellar opportunity to make it, whatever it is that didn’t work, better.
Every single time when you learned something that was a life lesson of active learning, not passive learning from the experience of others (yes, you need both, there is not enough time to make all of the mistakes on your own time), you learned it exactly because things went badly. You learned precisely because the first, or first 10, or a hundred tries didn’t work out for you. They didn’t work out because there was a knowledge gap that needed to be bridged first and then it needed to be streamlined, perfected and become more high resolution as you delved deeper into it.
It failed because you were exposed to something you didn’t understand and have no working knowledge of in the world. On a fluke ignorance could be a blessing, relieving you from fear by the mere instance that you’re unaware how stupid, dangerous or wrong the thing you’re doing is, but it’s unreproducible and unsustainable because you’ll need some knowledge to keep at it. Every time life exposes you to a thing you don’t understand you’re planted at a crossroads where you can choose. Will you do the ego thing and ignore that the problem might be you, that things fail because you might be lacking some knowledge, skill or insight or will you admit your foolishness and agree to be a student of life? A little humility goes a long way when learning through life. It is so much more important to notice when you’re wrong than to constantly try and prove you’re right. The more you talk, the less attention is left over to truly listen. The world is constantly shining a light on what needs to change, you’re getting warnings as stakes grow higher. Every anxiety and that uncomfortable gnawing feeling of resistance is a place where you’re refusing to listen.
Those who agree with us on the majority of issue will become great support through life but, in the larger picture, those who disagree will be just as valuable as counterbalances keeping the arrogance in check, reminding you there are other ways to see, other courses of action and systems you’ve never considered as a model to grasp the reality. Those who annoy you or make you mad by their opposition might very well be the best teachers you’ll ever have if you don’t resent them. None alone has the bragging right of knowing everything and the truth is most likely buried somewhere in between what your eyes see combined, If you listen you see more. So, it didn’t work? Good, good, keep it up. As Samuel Beckett succinctly shared his advice for life: “Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try Again. Fail again. Fail better.” So it didn’t work? Good, good…