…That’s why most people judge – said C.G. Jung, with all the accumulated psychoanalytic knowledge that made home within his person.
We like categories, clean answers, the finality of decisions and dichromatic nature of bulletproof conclusions. We enjoy labels, segmentation and stratification and are good at spotting patterns in life. Why? Because it is easier. If your brain has concluded something about a person, situation, object, landscape, you’re set, it won’t bother you anymore and you’re free to outsource the energy that would be spend on thinking about it into the biologically more necessary things such as bodily needs of food, shelter, water, procreation.
Thinking indeed is hard as are the emotions that come about in actual thinking, where you don’t know what the truth at the end of the rope will be. Have you ever noticed how much more tired you feel when you’re emotionally or mentally tired than when you’ve just exhausted the body through physical work. Physical exhaustion actually feels good in a way, freeing the mind and rewarding you with feel good chemicals after intense movement. Thinking and feeling on the other hand are energetically expensive with no guarantee of the feel good boost afterwards. It might downright be the complete opposite. What if you asked a serious question and actually thought things through to their final logical conclusion taking into consideration the weirdness of the context (or at least a part of if you’re currently aware of) and what if you don’t like what you see but, by all logical paths explored, this is the truth. What if you found out you were a bigot? What If you found a part of yourself you don’t like or are trying to deny, can’t accept or incorporate into who you think you are? What if thinking forces change? What if the truth kills the excuse you gave yourself to judge others?
Judging is far easier than the Herculean task of change. You just take a few random cherry picked pieces of information about something or someone, calculate it in with all the pre-learned things from your cultural, dogmatic or social background and, without any effort at all, draw the line and come to a simple, plausible, one sided, pigeonholed conclusion or explanation and that’s it. There is no context needed, no consideration of nuance, no growth demanded. This is easy, fast, automated, energy conserving, clean, non-boat rocking… And also wrong.
Don’t judge others, their lives and choices. There is zero percent chance you know the whole story and you have no idea at what chapter you’ve just stepped in. Be kind, listen and fight against the natural urge to label. Thinking may be hard, but accumulated through decades it opens up a life. There is always far more than you can see in a quick glance of judgement.