Because you are what you consistently do, not say you’ve done, are doing or will do. You are your actions regardless of the story you keep telling yourself or others. No one can peer into your brain or heart to see and feel 100% of what you are thinking and feeling. This person from behind your eyes, the frontal lobe “you” fully exists only to you and even for you is riddled with inconsistency, mutability, dualism, dissonance and a patchwork of real stories, imagined ones and more or less accurate or false memories of real events tweaked to fit your emotional landscape.

There is no objective you that is firmly fixed just as is in time and space. There are, like in quantum physics, only probability waves of you what you’d be more or less likely to lean towards or from. But you’ve surprised even yourself sometimes with the likes, dislikes, affinities, fears and reactions, now haven’t you? “You” is not a coherent thing and you’ll notice that, as you grow older and situations change, narratives and core stories you are telling about yourself begin to change in light of new information and experiences, becoming valuable not for what they really were but for what they are now. Your beliefs become habits which in turn become your life and shape your actions. If you were to tell an insightful person your usual day he/she would be able to tell you where you’ll be in 5, years from now, ten years from now and will you welcome your last days with regret or gratitude.

There will be times when you’ll get locked up in a perpetual loop in your mind, when you won’t be able to get out of it and be paralyzed into inaction by it. Do you know how long the loop will loop itself? Until you break the surface tension by acting. What you do might not be the perfect solution, but anything is better than nothing. You are not the loop; you are what you do about it. You are what you do and I have good news and bad news depending on whether you like yourself now – this to can be changed. You’re an action away from a completely different life. There is a reason why all is coming ONLY IF YOU PRACTICE!