There are times when you don’t feel emotions but you are a raw unprocessed emotion – opening up of new possibilities by witnessing a birth, falling in love or out of it, achieving a goal, failing miserably, losing someone or something that meant the world to you, a surge of energy when a purpose reveals itself… We all live on the whole spectrum, you can’t choose to feel only the good and inoculate yourself from an occasional bad feeling, you can’t only take joy and ecstasy and eliminate the sorrow, pain, fear, doubt and unavoidable hardship of being a full-blooded opened human being.

That is the whole point. You shouldn’t want to eliminate them, they are just as useful as the good feelings even if doesn’t seem like that in the moment you’re experiencing them.

The good and the bad carry equal weight in showing you what is important. Don’t anesthetize yourself in order to try and be constantly giddy and deliriously happy. Happiness is a choice and it doesn’t work by blocking the negative, shutting your eyes in willing blindness, but by seeing the reality, feel everything you need to feel, work through it and process it. Learn to control your emotions but equally important – learn to LISTEN to them. Why are you feeling this fear now? Why are you hearing an alarm go off inside when the situation looks quite ordinary from the outside? Why does leaving that place or person make you feel like you’re dying inside? Why is there guilt – do you know you’re not doing what you’re supposed to be doing?

Listen! Emotions will show you how close or far away you are from the things you REALLY WANT, not those you think you want or would like to want, but really want. Learn to listen, evaluate, understand and then take control. They are here to guide you, some silent some loud, but the purpose is the same. You’re not at their mercy, they are the beacons to your best life, go through it all, and come out better.