DISCLAIMER: You are not anger, you get angry.

WHY?

  • Because you don’t get your way, and feel entitled you should, believing your way is somehow superior to any other way
  • Because people don’t listen to you and it leaves you feeling unheard, ignored and unappreciated
  • Because you didn’t keep a promise to yourself due to lack of self-control or the inability to say “no” to others
  • Because things are looped in a loop of sameness, a pattern of situations emerging over and over again, when in fact you react to them the same and attract the same thing to you, giving it energy repeatedly by getting angry at them
  • Because there will always be injustice in the world and you can imagine a better future but not a way to it, and it leaves you powerless
  • Because people don’t change (unless they are driven to it by fear or personal necessity) no matter how much you’d like them to change, while you forget you have a choice to stay or leave that relationship if it harms you
  • Because things sometimes fail, no matter how much you try, and you refuse to accept the fact you don’t know and cannot predict every single factor that creates that particular context
  • Because people lie and because you trust them
  • Because you hold others to the same standard you hold yourself and see the world as you are not as it is
  • Because you’ve become so numb that it is better to feel angry than nothing at all, making you an anger junkie do to its explosive intensity
  • Because it is an inherited behavior from your early social surroundings or you’ve learned how to fake anger to the point where it becomes real in order to pretend you care about something or someone
  • Because you forget others are also human and expect perfecton

… and the list just goes on

ONE SINGLE SOURCE of it all is the ego, the belief that the world should abide to our wish or the conviction that we are somehow rational all the time and won’t disappoint ourselves, others, or someone else won’t disappoint us, it is the arrogance of believing that your point of view is somehow more valid than that all of those who see things differently

ONE SINGLE SOLLUTION is to see, to be aware of when it arises (it will) and to accept. Acceptance of reality, while still working on making it better in every nook and cranny in which you can make a difference, is the proper allocation of your life energies. Sometimes you might have every right to be angry, that is undisputable, but the uselessness of perpetual anger as a mood and a character trait is obvious – it poisons you while not achieving anything with that thing or situation you’ve decided to be angry at. Whatever happens that makes you angry take it as your teacher – an unreasonable situation, degenerate relationship, a difficult person, stubbornness and inert laziness of large institutions, children or partner not hearing what you said… it has the capacity to teach you to better govern yourself, if you let it… you can get angry as well if that arises, but not allow the anger to take over because the work that needs to be done requires intelligence, persistence and ingenuity of approach and not brute impotent force of unfocused anger. There is always a better way, always, a solution staring you in the face, you just need to get still and quiet the bloodthirsty lions roaring with anger to hear it.