What’s done is done, what has passed has passed. There is no more point in beating your soul black and blue about it, yes even if it was your fault, something you did, didn’t do, failed at, ruined or destroyed. It’s done, it’s over.

Dwelling on it makes no logical sense – it does nothing to rectify the mistake, it helps no one who was involved but only endlessly torments you in your personal hell. So stop it. It’s over. You can’t grab into the past, rewind and change it, you can’t know how many more mornings you have to wake up in. You only have today. If there is something you can do to clean up the mess do it – today. It’s an action that clears the air not a personal boxing match with your conscience inside. It demands that you move and do something, be it an apology (even if it is not accepted), an act of kindness, an explanation, a gesture… If none of it is accepted than relieve yourself of your own personal desire to be forgiven, because this is what you’re looking for.

Sometimes we make mistakes and we have to live with it. Very few things in this life are completely unfixable, but they happen. If given enough time all that can happen will happen if you’re not hiding from life in a safe bubble, and some of it will happen to you. Deal with it, learn to accept your flawed nature as well as those of others and grow through it. The process of growing up is in large part overcoming of the flaws you’re aware of and keeping them under control. So stop torturing yourself. Your regrets and mistakes have been redeemed – if you learnt from them enough not to repeat the same one again. You’re redeemed through the sole fact that you tried to make it right no matter if it worked or not. Holding grudges (to yourself and others alike) never made any real difference except depleting your energy. Either do something about it or stop whining.