Things will come and things will go. They will appear and disappear. Some of them you’ll be able to influence some of them not. What needs to happen will happen no matter how hard you shut your eyes or push back and what can’t be won’t happen no matter how much you push. Your job is to find a space that can benefit from you investing your energy to at least tip towards the better.

You don’t need to resist things. It won’t stop them from coming but just create friction. That is what resistance is – friction. And each friction is a waste of energy which will eventually stop even a rolling boulder or a projectile. There is nothing to resist. In resisting you’re trying to deny the existence of something and are effectively creating a lie to feel better in the short term, and living in a lie willingly is choosing to not face the truth, while the only way to deal with what is happening is to acknowledge its existence.

No matter what is happening, the only way to the other side is through. Through is the shortest and most educational route and, although it might seem painful, the pain will pass as you get better at handling it. Pain is a necessary coproduct of growth. Not resisting and accepting the responsibility for what needs to be done – even if it is hard, even if you have no idea how you’re gonna do this, even if it terrifies you is the utmost stroke of freedom. We’ll all get dealt a fair bit of chaos along the way with the beauty and you’re free to choose to face your chaos willingly. This freedom is timeless and limitless. It is not something you produce or chant into being, it is always here, it is not created but recognized, and once you do – use it to govern your actions.

No resistance. Get more gentle, soften your ability to allow things to unfold without the need to force them or expect beforehand some selfish benefits from it. What needs to be done and what is right will not always come with bells and trumpets as a celebration with instant return. It will be painstakingly difficult inner work, where incremental small improvements will accumulate into a different outlook and life over time. There is no selfishness in no resistance. The bamboo seed takes 5 years to break the ground and then in 5 weeks it grows 90 feet tall. Be flexible, flow around obstacles. As Bruce Lee said: “Be like water” – water always finds a way, even trapped in a bowl it will escape by evaporating. Be water, don’t resist, flow.