What is? Everything and anything at all that happened to you. Why is it ok?

– Because you didn’t know any better – and now you do, it needed to happen no matter how hard, tragic or strange
– Because you knew better but decided to ignore your gut – and now you know you’re not supposed to ignore it
– Because you were stupid – and now you’re a bit less stupid for having had that experience
– Because it was not your fault, you couldn’t predict it, stop it or influence it – and there is no reason to beat yourself about it if couldn’t have been helped
– Because it had to happen to show you what is important – deep regrets are guides to your true desire
– Because bad things sometimes happen to good people and that time they happened to you – the law of chance dictates that sometimes you’ll get the short end of the stick, take it with dignity and move on, accident s happen and it is nothing personal
– Because you didn’t see a crucial piece of information while distracted – and now you know that attention and clarity are your friends
– Because you trusted too much – and you will continue on to do so because trust is not a dirty word, betrayal is
– Because you expected too much – and now you know to do your best and let thigs unfold unattached to the outcome
– Because you were weak – and now you got stronger
– Because you were strong – and now you know that strength doesn’t exclude vulnerability
– Because you lacked self-control – and now you’ll never let that happen again with your laser focus
– Because you couldn’t have known – and now you have a better relationship with humility
– Because you were supposed to be protected – and now you’ve learned to rely on yourself
– Because you broke a promise – and now you know that words carry weight and there is no relationship without trust
– Because you made a mistake – well congratulations! You’re human.

Whatever happened to you, it is OK. If you still feel it is not and there is a way to fix it then fix it. If it is unfixable accept the lesson and let go of the pain. It’s been long enough, you’ve payed your emotional due 10 times over. It’s ok, it’s all right… or it will be soon. Breathe.